Tuesday, August 14, 2007

Discrimination Against Breastfeeding In Public

I received the following mass Fwd in my email this morning by a respected CPM in the San Fransisco Bay Area. Apparently, California's Attorney General is researching discrimination against breastfeeding moms in public. Yet another example of why California is a great place to live if you can get over the incredible cost of living... Anywho, would any California girls like to participate? Check this out:

From: Beth McGovern [mailto:bmcgovern@women.ca.gov]

The Civil Rights Enforcement Division of the CA Attorney General's (AG) Office is gathering information regarding discrimination against mothers who breastfeed in public. They would like to hear from women who have experienced this type of discrimination during the last year.

The right of women to breastfeed their children when and where they need to is an ongoing struggle. In 1997, a law was passed establishing a woman's right to breastfeed her child anywhere she is otherwise authorized to be present. In spite of this law, women who breastfeed are still sometimes subjected to discrimination and are deprived of their right to breastfeed in public places.

This is an important project and we encourage mothers to contact Sunny Sarkis at the AG's office (contact information below) and share your stories!

Sincerely,
California Commission on the Status of Women
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If you have information regarding discrimination against breastfeeding mothers, please contact: Sunny Sarkis, Graduate Student Assistant California Attorney General's Office, CivilRights Enforcement Division (916) 324-4085 Sunny.Sarkis@doj.ca.gov

Personally, I'm pretty impressed that California is being proactive to secure a women's right to breast feed in public. Unfortunately, I think it is probably still necessary. But I have to say, as someone who did a lot of breastfeeding in public. I never experienced so much as a dirty look, much less discrimination. I was always pretty blatant about it too. I never used a blanket or any type of cover (Not that I exposed myself! There was a baby in the way!). I didn't hide in corners, though both my baby and I preferred a more secluded spot. However, that was because we were hoping for a quiet moment not because we didn't want anyone to notice what we were doing. I've breastfed on countless airplane rides, at malls, in restaurants, in government buildings, in libraries, in stores, at church... you name it. Maybe I was just oblivious to the nasty glances, but I prefer to believe they just weren't happening. And honestly, I don't think they were.

When I breastfed Normy in public it often started up the best conversations with people. Women would feel prompted to tell me about their own struggles or joys with nursing. Old men and women would tell me about their grandkids. And new dads would tell me about how proud they were of their wives nursing their seven kids...and on and on. I'm not saying the battle is over; that women don't face hostility when they nurse their babes in public. I KNOW that still happens sometimes. I guess what I am trying to say is that I just never noticed it myself. I'd like new moms out there, wondering how they're ever going to get up the courage to nurse in public, to know that it really isn't all that bad. MOST people today (in every state, not just Crazy California!) are actually wonderfully supportive. The word is out; "Breast IS Best!"


Notice we aren't using blankest, and you can't see a thing!


Nursing while sightseeing, a self portrait...


In that last picture we were chilling out in the back of this old Mission Church. Periodically other tourist would stroll through and take a look around. No one said anything to me other than a friendly "Hello! Sure is hot outside, huh?"


At the salon before my sister's wedding.


Out to eat at The Stinking Rose in San Francisco. YUMMY!

10 contributions:

20 something said...

There is nothing more beautiful than having a chubby little baby body nestled against the skin and just being able to enjoy the fact that we are feeding our babies with our own bodies. I too breastfeed wherever I go and wish more women felt confident enough to do so. I think its disgusting that Western society still looks at the female breast as sexual and something to be hidden even when it is nourishing a baby.

You go girl! Fatten that little man up!

Tropicalsmoochie said...

I love your post! I breastfeed as you know... there is nothing better than being able to provide for your little one. I use a cover up most of the time when I feed my little man out in public, not for me but for my husband (he's a little shy). I can say that I have received "looks" from people when I feed my baby without it. More interestingly though when I use my cover up I have actually had multiple people come up and thank me for covering up... which bothers me. I'm not covering up for them and I don't think there is anything wrong with feeding without a cover. It just makes me think... would those people be the ones giving dirty looks if I didn't have my cover???

tana said...

I sent the e-mail to my Mom's group. It would be interesting to see the results based on metro areas (I'm in LA).

I breastfed my son for almost a year (he weaned himself cold turkey one night) and only once did I get more than a glance (that I noticed). That was from a probably 10 or 11 year-old Korean boy at the health department office, he only watched me in facination.

I nursed him in several locations throughout Disneyland, including sitting on the central fountain in ToonTown.

norms and his lil bros aunt. Well i hope it is any way said...

WOMAN POWER!!! all for it! that picturea t the salon....wooo, i did not look to good. and the pic at the stinky rose, I TOTALLY took that! haha


LOVE YOU ALL

Jenny O. said...

What wonderful pictures! I nursed both of my daughters, and seeing your pictures brought back beautiful memories.

Morgan said...

I must say, I completely agree with you.

But, what I really want to say is CONGRATULATIONS!! Yay! I'm so excited for you. I want more pregnancy news!

Woman on the Verge said...

Sadly, there is much controversy on this subject from one coast to the next....While breastfeeding is gaining popularity and acceptance, there are still many who view doing it in public disgraceful, immoral and disgusting. Especially in certain cities full of certain kinds of people that I will not say here. I noticed it more with Jack than I did with Chloe, probably because I breastfed him longer and had the chance to do so in more places. One of my more distinct memories was being in the grocery with both of them and Jack, like always, was in his sling which was convenient and also served as a cover up. I was standing at the deli breastfeeding him when an elderly lady came up to me and asked me what I had in there, I replied "um...a baby" and she proceeded to pull back the sling for a peek. I didn't even have a chance to say "no", "please don't" or "beware! Boobage!" When she saw what was happening she jumped back, started mumbling and got away quickly. What?!? I was left with this bewilderment. Wondering why something so simple and natural would cause such shock and disgust in people.
You cannot change the way people feel about breasts in our society. We are raised to see them as sexual organs and that they are taboo. It's sad to see so many generations of people raised with these beliefs. All we can do is educate our own children and teach them what is natural and beautiful. We have the power to change these misconceptions through our children and make what has been controversial for us, easy and accepted for them.
I have an adorable picture of Chloe giving her baby "booby milk" from last week. It's adorable. What ws even cuter is that she offered to give Jack some booby milk too because he seemed really hungry.

Woman on the Verge said...

Sorry, I totally hijacked your comments!

Rebecca said...

W.O.V.,

Ooo man, I got so pissed off for you as yo recounted what happened in the supermarket. How dare that old bitty first invade your privacy and personal space and then condemn you for (obviously) discreetly nursing in public. AAAHHHH!!!

Anyway, though I agree with you that we can't change everyone's mind we can change the way people feel about breasts in our society. By teaching your kids the way you have YOU are changing the way society views breasts. By standing up for our right to nurse in public all of us can change perception.

There is nothing wrong with boobies being both maternal and sexual. It is all about context. I believe our society is intelligent enough to get the distinction, and with a little education and exposure people will come around. And those who can't...screw 'em!

Moogie said...

I thought I left a comment last night, but maybe I was dreaming. :) It was fairly long, and since I actually wrote a post about it, I'll keep it brief. Which is next to impossible for me.

I tried to avoid breast feeding in public because I could never get comfortable with it I always covered up when I did so. I don't have a problem with women who don't cover up. So much of it is a personal decision.

I believe that we are all a product of our upbringing, which I think was mentioned in a comment above. I never did experience anything negative, but then again, I tried not to do it in public, so there weren't many chances.

Like I said, I wrote a post about it so I won't go into any more detail. I don't want to hijack the comments. :)

Great post Becca...and one I could talk about for a long time. There are so many different ways to look at it.