Thursday, March 30, 2006

30 Weeks and Still Growing...

I thought I was big before...I had no idea! I can't believe that I am going to get bigger. Probably A LOT BIGGER! This is a horrible picture of me… but I really wanted to show off my enormous pregnant belly! I made Jacob take some shots of me before bed last night so I would have something to work with today. I had snuck a picture of his beard, but he deleted it without my knowledge. Sheesh.

I LOVE pregnancy. Or, at least this pregnancy. I am told that every time is different and that the second baby could give me all the problems this one has been without. I’ll take my chances though! How do you like that, I haven’t even squeezed out this baby and I am thinking about his siblings! I probably shouldn’t get too ahead of myself. I was going to write some about homebirth today…but I might save it for a day when I feel more long winded. I'm feeling too distracted and restless for a long exposition. But if I got anyone thinking about it yesterday, check out this website . I’ve only just started going through it, but it looks pretty informative.

Today I have finished a terrific book, Baby Catcher by Peggy Vincent. Turns out she was one of the first Certified Nurse Midwives (CNM) in the East Bay area with a private practice. Her story is fascinating and touching. The stories of the mothers, babies, labors, and everything else had me locked into the pages of her memoir for two days straight. I couldn’t tare away. The only tragedy of her career is that the insurance companies and big medical machine eventually made her homebirth practice impossible after over 10 years and two thousand babies! The situation has improved for CNMs and lay midwives in California since then, but it still seems there is a ways to go. It’s just amazing to me that these women with statistics that rival and often surpass obstetrician’s (OB) outcomes for healthy moms with normal pregnancies could be kept hampered or kept from their practice all together because of an unwillingness of the medical machine to challenge the status quo. I guess it all boils down to money. Anyway the book was great for me to read because it chronicled the rise of homebirth movement in the community where I actually live.

The only caution I would give to moms in my position reading the book is that out of her many many many homebirths a disproportionate amount of her births that required hospital transfer appear in her book. My guess is that not only did these stand out sharply in her memory, but telling those scarier stories showcased her competency and ability at handling the emergencies. Further, it gave her a chance to illustrate how important it is for those rare true emergencies that OBs and hospitals respect and coordinate with homebirth attendants to save lives. I love the part in the book where she describes an unidentified breach that when into labor fast and early. Peggy did everything right, down to the speedy hospital transfer where her supporting OB rushed in to “save the day” and the baby’s life. This was early in her career and she was worried the doctor would loose faith in her. Instead he acknowledged that all practitioners, regardless of their degrees, occasionally miss breaches, or twins, etc and that she had done everything by the book and to the best of her ability. He went on to say,


“I’ve backed a few lay midwives over the years, and now there’s you, and I really like it. When midwives call with problems, we docs get to do what we’re good at, the emergencies, the drama, the flashy stuff. I like swinging from the branches a bit, playing hot-dog obstetrics, and I know you do too…”


To me, that sums it up beautifully. In a perfect world there would be no competition between midwives and OBs. Each has a vital role to fill. The midwives have the time and ability to help a healthy women labor normally and the Docs have the skills to save lives in emergencies. Consequently I am going with my midwife’s blessing tomorrow to consult with a OB to possibly be our back up doctor. I guess that will be tomorrow’s topic.

Here I wasn’t going to write a dissertation, and I got sucked in anyway. In between I have been baking Potica (a W. family secret recipe Tracy was finally able to share with me on our trip through Kansas!) and now I HAVE to get the kitchen clean and diner on. Smoochy will be home any minuet!

Wednesday, March 29, 2006

I'm Back!

  • I don't know where to begin. With more than a month since my last post and so much adventure and change to chronicle, I think I could blog for days and still not have filled in all the gaps. So let's start with the obvious. Jacob, dogs, and I are safe and sound in California. The picture to the left is our new abode, a charming little mother-in-law cottage we are renting. California prices are a lot to swallow. We are paying double our previous mortgage in rent for half the space. Wow, welcome to the west coast. The trade off is the sheer beauty of the area. I walk the dogs every day (because there is no longer an acre of yard for them to chase around in!) amongst eclectic homes landscaped with teaming tangles of bright flowers, with huge green grassy hills always rising just on the horizon.I don't know where to begin. With more than a month since my last post and so much adventure and change to chronicle, I think I could blog for days and still not have filled in the gaps. So let's start with the obvious. Jacob, dogs, and I are safe and sound in California. The picture to the left is our new abode, a charming little mother-in-law cottage we are renting. California prices are a lot to swallow. We are paying double our previous mortgage in rent for half the space. You CAN NOT buy a decent 2 bedroom here for under $650,000. Wow, welcome to the west coast. The trade off is the sheer beauty of the area. I walk the dogs every day (because there is no longer an acre of yard for them to chase around in!) amongst eclectic homes landscaped with teaming tangles of bright flowers, with huge green grassy hills always rising just on the horizon. Our new place is spacious and comfortable, our land lady is fantastic, and things are just good.

    I’ll continue with the obvious. My husband is a civilian. He is handling the transition with grace and humor. His new employment offers him boundless room for personal expression. He is taking full advantage of it by growing a beard and he swears he will have a pony-tail before his next haircut. We’ll see about the pony-tail. Today he went to work wearing a black tee-shirt and jeans, and it’s only Wednesday. Who knows what he’ll wear Friday for dress down day! Last Friday it was kaki shorts! The good news is he loves his job so far. He looks forward to going in each day, and stays late. Not to mention I can’t get him off his lap-top when he is home! Right now he’s doing problem solving on a very techy level with a lot of independence. He is stimulated and engaged. Thank God, because those of us who know him realize a bored Jacob is a destructive Jacob. He has started working out on his lunch hour and hasn’t smoked a cigarette in nearly three weeks! It’s amazing what a little change of atmosphere can do!

    And as for me? Well, in keeping with the obvious, I am still pregnant. Thursday will make 30 weeks. I thought I was big at five months, I had no idea what big was…and it baffles me that I have 10+/- more weeks to grow. I’m sorry I have no new pictures yet, but they will be forthcoming. Pregnancy continues to be a cake walk for me, I am healthy as a horse. I love being pregnant, it is as though I was built to make babies… and I guess indeed I was.

    I seem to have discovered a zeal for natural child birthing. What started as a curiosity has burst in to a full blown passion after reading Gentle Birth Choices, Birthing From Within, some of Ina May Gaskin’s work ( I can’t find Spiritual Midwifery in stores!), and tons of other books. I feel charged and ready to try to bring our baby into the world here at home with the aid of our WONDERFUL and experienced midwife, Judy. I am blessed to have an open minded and logically thinking husband who not only supports me, but agrees with my preference. It is very empowering. I am sure many of you will have questions and concerns regarding home birth. Tomorrow or the next day I will give some more details on how we reached our decision, and our plans, but if you have any specific questions I would LOVE to discuss them! It’s just about my favorite topic. I apologized to Jacob the other day because all I talk about is babies and birth. He is so cool, he told me he didn’t mind at all, after all it’s “the nearest alligator.” We are both just so excited about going from two to three. The baby is getting so strong, and is so active. If we curl up at night with my belly pressed against his back, both Jacob and I fall asleep to the sensations of our son swimming around inside me. We are blessed.

    Well, that’s a start. I’ll be back tomorrow!